My Big Little Family
I always thought I would have a big family. I always loved the idea of being overwhelmed with children. How do you know when you are "done" having more babies? as a mom do you ever feel "done"? maybe some of us do but I'm struggling.
Why we Need to Stop Comparing
“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”
2 Corinthians 12:9
Have you ever gone to that play date and saw the neighborhood, got into their amazing home, saw the beautifully decorated, seamlessly cleaned and thought you were in your dream Pinterest home?
Have you ever headed out for errands in your yoga pants and tennies and you didn’t actually work out, but you ran into that mom and hear how she’s worked out, had a protein shake for breakfast and notice all the beautiful organic healthy food in her basket and start to come up with the excuses of why you have frozen pizza, corn dogs and your Starbucks Frappuccino instead?
You have those friends, those friends that seem so perfectly flowing in everything in life. Every time you leave her presence you find yourself thinking “I wish I could be more like her”
What is it that when we see someone else’s strengths we see our weaknesses that much easier?
I know I have strengths, and that’s the problem with comparing myself. I don’t see my strengths anymore when I see her strengths next to my weaknesses.
We believe more of what we hear ourselves say than what others say.
So what can we do to not get stuck in this rut of comparison?
We need to learn to be thankful.
We have to start saying something good and drown out the other voices that condemn you. We can’t compare ourselves because we will never fully learn to be thankful for God’s strength.
Listen to this from the message translation of 2 Corinthians 12:7-10
“Because of the extravagance of those revelations, and so I wouldn’t get a big head, I was given the gift of a handicap to keep me in constant touch with my limitations. Satan’s angel did his best to get me down; what he in fact did was push me to my knees. No danger then of walking around high and mighty! At first I didn’t think of it as a gift, and begged God to remove it. Three times I did that, and then he told me, My grace is enough; it’s all you need. My strength comes into its own in your weakness. Once I heard that, I was glad to let it happen. I quit focusing on the handicap and began appreciating the gift. It was a case of Christ’s strength moving in on my weakness. Now I take limitations in stride, and with good cheer, these limitations that cut me down to size—abuse, accidents, opposition, bad breaks. I just let Christ take over! And so the weaker I get, the stronger I become.”
Because I have weakness I will get stronger through Him.
What weakness do you need to see Gods strength in?
As a person who doesn't like to ask for help I then in return have a hard time being thankful. Before I had kids I never asked for anything, I was independent, stubborn and could figure it out myself. Then Eli and Jonah came and I was humbled. I needed my tribe. I needed help and I needed as many people and help as possible.
In my opinion thankfulness and excepting help goes hand in hand. When a fellow mom sees your struggle and offers to take your child for a few hours, when your mom wants to buy lunch, when your buddy wants to pray for you, even when someone has unsolicited advise for you, TAKE IT. That friend and or family member wants to help you, they love you!
Allowing for this level of vulnerability shows people you want to be real with them. It shows you trust them. This process of allowing myself to accept help and hear from my friends and family has taught me a deeper level of gratefulness. As I receive help from these people in my life I am overwhelmed with thankfulness everyday.
Today on the one day a year we come across thankful I am challenged to ALWAYS be thankful.
Colossians 3:15 says: "And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And ALWAYS be thankful."
To me personally I read this passage and think about my stubborn, independent self and realize I can accept others help, others words because what if its a gift from God? would I ever turn down an offer from God? would you?
I can accept these things in peace because we are working together, live life together despite our differences.
Our hearts are so full of emotions and feelings toward ourselves and each other that this rule of living in peace is what is so important to our everyday thankfulness. if we see through our differences and see the thankfulness for having different perspectives, different opinions, different lifestyles, life will be easier. wouldnt life be lame if we were all the same and had the same opinions? I'm thankful for how different we all are.
Hebrews 12:28 says: "Since we are receiving a kingdom that is unshakeable, lets us be thankful and please God by worshipping Him with holy fear and awe."
there are so many different ways we can be thankful to the Lord and for me one of them is the tribe
He has given me. The bothers and sisters in Christ that He has gifted me with is beyond words of what I can describe. The everyday thankfulness I am filled with is going to be easy to express today. but what can I do to show my thankfulness everyday?
As I prepare to do my devotional this morning I sit and I wonder do I even hear God anymore? am I listening to Him? am I doing one or the other? am I doing both?
why is this so hard!?
Hearing is the ability to perceive sounds or information while Listening is paying attention to what your hearing.
"your not listening to me" I say this to Eli all the time. I know he hears that I am talking with him but I can tell HES NOT LISTENING.
am I doing this to the Lord? can I hear him talking to me but I'm not listening?
YES! I do this more frequently then I would like to admit.
The Lord speaks to us in so many different ways. Through Scripture, He gives us dreams and visions and through other Christ followers. recognizing where he is speaking to me is where I'm having a hard time.
a lot of you know about our recent miscarriage and this has still been one of the harder experiences I've had. I believed whole heartedly that the Lord spoke to me for years that I would have a large family with several little kiddos running around my house. this came to a halting stop when Zach and I didn't agree on a number of kids and he felt done and I did not. when we were on the same page with being ok with having another and this other came along I was over the moon. The Lord was blessing me with what I believed He had said to me.
Long story short I am in a huge doubting phase of whether I can actually hear him? or am I just not listening? am I not paying attention to what I am hearing?
The Lord is not trying to make this difficult for us to hear him, He's screaming at us. He's always helping, talking and showing us! But its our eyes, its our ears and our mouths that are getting in the way. Psalm 23 says " The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters, He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his names sake. Even though I walk through the valley of shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; you anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life, and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord forever."
The Lord is always with us and he will always be speaking to us, are we listening?
August 25th 2017, a date I will always remember.
This was the day our grievances began.
July 10th I took an at home pregnancy test and was please to see the words "pregnant"
With many conversations and announcements to be planned my husband and our 2 boys were beginning to become overwhelmed with joy at the idea of another little family member.
I was pregnant, I was exhausted, taking naps with the littles and morning sickness all day long. then these things started getting better, I wasn't that tired anymore and I for sure wasn't nauseas. I didn't think much about it because at this point I was 9 weeks and I thought well maybe the joyful 2nd trimester was coming early.
I sit and wonder why do I grieve this so much. why do I cry myself to sleep, why do I long for this person I never knew.
I never felt the little flutters of a new life, I never had the uncomfortable nights with hiccups that weren't even mine jolting me awake. I never held this tiny new baby in my arms, I never watched their precious little face sleep while I gaze in awe and love over them. but yet I am heart broken, shattered in pieces wondering what did I do and how could I have done it different?
I went in for my first appointment and to them everything looked great. my HCG levels were high and I hadn't had any cramping or issues. we talked about delivery options and what our pregnancy plans were and I was sent on my way. at the end I begged them for an ultrasound. I wanted to take a cute picture to post on Facebook to announce to all our friends we were expecting baby #3. there it was we saw our little baby and fell instantly in love with her.
HER, we told Eli over and over you are probably going to have another brother and he cried and cried, while telling us in the saddest softest response, no mommy its a baby sister. every time.
August 25th I began to cramp and because my doctor had already told me I was showing signs of a failed pregnancy I knew what was happening. cramp after cramp I realized I was having contractions. this baby was coming.
filled with confusion I questioned, cried and begged God to stop it. I wanted, I needed this baby YOU TOLD ME THE BABY WAS OK
I knew the Lord had provided me with an over whelming amount of peace and I misunderstood. Our baby is ok, our baby is in the Lords arms and being loved for in heaven. but I wasn't willing to accept that.
That night after all was done, I finally fell asleep. I dreamt and dreamt all night in a peaceful, lucid state and all I saw was pink roses. pink rose after pink rose and on and on. I felt and knew from that moment the Lord was telling me "I have your baby girl safe in my arms"
Will I always feel this lonely and or misunderstood, I hope not.
but as we face this journey of grievances right now, I have hope and faith in Christ that we will get through this too.
But when I am afraid, I will put my trust in you
Finding Freedom in the Holy Spirit
Paul begins Romans 8 with a very bold statement by first saying “1. So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.”
In today’s terms this is a guilty man or a woman standing in front of a judge on death row and hearing the words “not guilty, let him go free.”
Truth is we are all on “death row” for judgement day when we stand before Jesus. Not one of us has the strength or ability to uphold Gods Holy law. Without Jesus, the power of His spirit in our lives we are hopeless.
BUT, the biggest butt of all! He has already declared us not guilty and has given us an opportunity of freedom from sin and power to do HIS will.
Romans 8:2. “And because you belong to him, the power of the life-giving Spirit has freed you from the power of sin that leads you to death.”
The Holy Spirit friends. This is real. Verse 2 tells us now that we belong to Him we have his life given spirit in us! He gives us this power that we need to fulfill a Christ like life. WE ARE FREE!
Romans 8:5 “Those who are dominated by the sinful nature think about sinful things, but those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit think about things that please the Spirit”
Paul continues to tell us the warnings of being controlled by sinful nature and the horrific ending of death due to it. But letting the spirit control your mind leads to life and peace. Our sinful human race will never obey God. That is why those who are controlled by their sinful nature can never please God. BUT this is the good news, we are NOT controlled by our sinful nature. As a Christ follower, we have the Spirit controlling and giving us the power we need to please God every day.
So, in that my thoughts are where in my life do I need more Spirit given strength to please God? Here are my personal struggles. I am not a murderer, I am not an adulteress, I do not steal, cheat but maybe I say a small white lie here or there. I compare, I judge and I “know” what’s better for people. (I can make choices for them that are better for them). My sin is that I think I am better than some people. “well at least I don’t murder people” or “I would never spend my money that way” and the most said “their parenting skills are slacking”. Who am I? I have no place to put myself into ANYONE else’s life.
My prayer is that I will be filled with the Spirit for the strength that I need to have grace and mercy toward others so that I can be pleasing to God in my life. No one else’s.
DIY Dry Shampoo: get rid of oily hair ASAP!
Here is my home-made Dry Shampoo that will help you get rid of your oily hair in a flash. As a mom on the go its hard to squeeze a shower in every day and so dry shampoo is a life saver for me on days where I am super busy and on the go. It is a super easy recipe that is really easy to make and very quick to apply/use. Its works so well and leaves my hair smelling great and gets rid of all the oily gross hair. Once you try it this will be a go-to for all you mommas out there that are busy. Here is the process on and recipe below so you can make this! Check it out!
Also, if you just want to buy some of this from me and not deal with making it. You'll have a chance to do that to... Keep Scolling.... :)
Here are all the 100% pure ingredients that you will need in order to get started.
-YL Rosemary Essential Oil (supports hair growth)
-YL Tea Tree Essential Oil (supports cleanliness)
-YL Cedarwood Essential Oil (supports hair growth & cleanliness)
First you start with 1/4 cup of corn starch
Next you add 1 teaspoon of Baking Soda.
*Optional For Darker Hair add 2 table spoons of Cocoa Powder
Next add 2 drops of young livings Rosemary Essential oil, 2 drops of young livings cedar wood essential oil, and 1 drop of young livings tea tree essential oil.
Now mix all of your ingredients well and transfer you final product into a cute shaker, like this one!
Check out the process.... Once you shake it on you will want to rub/comb into your hair and scalp very well.
In a large bowl I mixed together the corn starch and baking soda. If I had dark hair I would also add the cocoa powder here. Then I added the Young Living Essential oils that promote hair growth and cleanliness to the powder mixture. After it is mixed I spoon it into a cute mason jar shaker and keep it in my bathroom for quick use. Works great when I am in a hurry. Check out this video of me and my super cute boys making some of this below! Can you find the error I made? Haha
Do you believe that you have the ability to easily change someone’s mind?
I am a mommy of 2 little boys and a wife of 1 amazing husband! I love natural living and essential oils. Follow my journey here while I navigate life and make fun stuff with Oils!